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Photo Friday – Old Cars (Sunday Afternoons After Church) ~By CordieB.

Initially, I had not planned to submit for this week’s Photo Friday because time did not permit me to take a picture of an old vehicle. Additionally, I did not have any photos that I had previously taken. But the rules were adjusted somewhat this week, whereas we can submit pics that we did not take. So I thought I’d share a picture taken in the early 60’s of my mother and aunt Anna. Both have gone on to another realm; bless their souls.  To see this pic in a larger view; please visit my photo blog or click on the pic .

Sunday Afternoons After Church

Sunday Afternoons After Church

Sunday afternoons after church in the 60’s were so full of neighborhood and family values: Families and friends gathering together for Soul Food, good conversation–everyone wearing their Sunday best – so full of love and tradition. Boy do I ever miss those days. I myself often carry out the Sunday tradition; but unlike the days of old, it’s always me doing all the cooking and most of us did not come from church! Wow do I miss the days when many of the women gathered in the steamy kitchen talking trash, laughing – whilst the men, admiring their families, talked “business” in the dining room. Now I know that we’ve progressed so much from the 60’s; but some things, in my opinion, did not promote progress, but a sense of individuality bringing forth separation that saddens me. No longer do I see the community and family unity – everyone’s for self now. This, in my opinion, has caused depression, poverty, violence and a malady of social problems. So today, let’s strive to live that life of the 60’s, and bring family and community together.

Sunday Afternoons After Church ~By CordieB

Oh how I miss the days of old . . .

When family unity was the goal

Of every bright or weary soul

Oh how I miss the lost tradition

When helping hands was the mission

When we knew all our neighbor’s names

When we’d speak to all who peacefully came

walking down the clean sidewalks

stopping for friendly gossip and small talk

When neighbors would watch over the young

and everyone knew every one

when neighbors could spank that ass

for talking smart or acting fast

and then I’d get another one

after the neighbor told my dad or mom

When children still played hide and seek

When strong families always helped the weak

When unity meant what it should

and not simply another cliche’ buzz word

When fathers could not abandon theirs

without humilitation, points and stares

and of course lots and lots of old folk’s prayers

When the corner store owner lived in the neighborhood

and there was no such thing as “living in the hood”

And people usually acted like they knew they should

The Sunday afternoons after church dismissed

When family and neigbors gathered to reminice

And laugh and cry and love each other

and every one was treated like a sister or brother

I miss it all, but alas life goes on

So at least I’ll carry the tradition on

So if you miss those days, come visit soon

My home on Sunday Afternoons

~Written By CordieB

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Photo Friday – Traditions

This week’s photo Friday is entitled “Traditions.”  I do appologize for being late with my submission; I’ve been quite busy since Thursday.  Instead of doing pics, I decided to do a video, incorporating some pics on “tradition.”  I think the video and words will have a good idea on our traditions.  To see the video in a larger view, visit the photo blog at cordiebpics.wordpress.com  Have a great Sunday!

Please click on these links to see everyone else’s beautiful photo’s displaying “Traditions”

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Curious C

 

 

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Photo Blog

Hello beautiful people!

I’ve decided to join in with the hip crew and do a photo blog too.  Here is the link.  http://cordiebpics.wordpress.com/   First visitor gets a lollipop!  (wink)

 

Peace, Light and Love, CordieB

Get it Together

This one’s dedicated to my regular blog friends.  You know who you are.  For the past few weeks, I think we all have been somewhat “going through something.”  I feel compelled to share this special song with you.  So, let our hearts and minds continue to heal.  Peace, Light and Love, Cordieb. 

One shot to your heart without breaking your skin
No one has the power to hurt you like your kin
Kept it inside, didn’t tell no one else
Didn’t even wanna admit it to yourself
And now your chest burns and your back aches
From 15 years of holding the pain
And now you only have yourself to blame
If you continue to live this way

[Chorus:]
Get it together
You wanna heal your body?
Get it together
You have to heal your heart
Whatsoever you sow you will reap
Get it together

You can fly fly

Dark future ahead of me
That’s what they said
I’d be starving if I ate all the lies they fed
Cause I’ve been redeemed from your anguish and pain
A miracle child I’m floating on a cloud
Cause the words that come from your mouth
You’re the first to hear
Speak words of beauty and you will be there
No matter what anybody says
What matters most is what you think of yourself

[Chorus]

The choice is yours
No matter what it is
To choose life is to choose to forgive
You don’t have to try
or hurt him and break his pride
Just shake that weight off
And you’ll be ready to fly

One shot to your heart without breaking your skin
No one has the power to hurt you like your friends
Thought it would never change but as time moved on
That ugly duckling grew up to be a swan
And now your chest burns and your back aches
Because now the years are showing up on your face
But you’ll never be happy
And you’ll never be whole
Until you see the beauty in growing old
[Chorus]
[chorus]
you can fly fly fly fly…
you can live or you can die
you know that life is a choice you make
you can give or you can take

you can fly fly fly fly
you can fly fly fly fly…

Forgive Your Mother

One of my cyber buddies, Persistent Illusion,  http://persistentillusion.wordpress.com/ , wrote the most astonishing statement on forgiveness today, that I have to share it with all of you.   These words may very well change your life!  Forever. 

Once you read  Persistent Illusion’s post, you will better understand the following.  . .

 

Forgive your mother!  Forgive her not for the things she has done or not done or for the things she said or has not said.  Forgive her because it is the only way to open your heart to self-forgiveness.  Forgive her not because you don’t have a right to be upset about the way she has handled some things in her life and in your life.  Forgive her not because she was right in making you feel wrong, or because she was wrong when she failed to acknowledge that you were right.  Forgive your mother because until you do, there will always be a void in your heart. 

Forgive your mother for the many, many times she was not the mother you wanted her to be.  Forgive her for the times she did not do things the way you needed them done.  Forgive your mother for not protecting you or speaking out in your behalf.  Forgive her for not guiding you in the right direction and for the times she totally lost her direction, dragging you along with her.  Forgive your mother for demanding things from you that she could not provide for you or for herself.  Forgive your mother whether or not she did anything wrong or bad to you.  Forgive her not because you are excusing whatever she did or however it affected you.  Forgive your mother because holding judgments against her has a devastating impact on your soul.  The judgments you hold will eventually break your heart.  Forgive your mother because the truth is, she did the best she could whether you would like to believe it or not. You may have been harboring judgments or negative opinions about your mother and the way she did or did not mother you.

 

Just for today, forgive yourself for judging your mother.  Once you do, there will be nothing left to forgive her for.

 

~Iyanla~

Reflections after Thanksgiving.

We are back to daily living.  I read a post today from persistent illusions,  on 5 reasons to skip Thanksgiving … and it reminded me of a song by Jill Scott.  Here are the lyrics. 

We at the family reunion, tellin’ jokes and playin’ spades

Uncle Dave is on the barbeque grill, Grandma braggin ’bout the blanket she made

 For the new baby on her way

Even though the daddy ain’t really ready

This child is coming…anyway

Neicey made her famous potatoe salad, somehow it turns out green

Maybe its all the scallions, could be the celery

But oh, Uncle Jerome loves it (Hmm)

Hey baby baby, here comes my favorite…my favorite cousin

He says he doing fine, takin’it one step a day– but in my heart I know it ain’t that way

Whoa whoa-o-whoa whoa-o-whoa whoa-o-whoa

What can you say…it’s family

And whoa whoa-o-whoa whoa-o-whoa whoa-o-whoa

What can you say…it’s family

Aunt Juicy been drinkin’ again…ooh it’s only 1:30 in the afternoon

Everybody tip-toeing ’round her, we all know she gonna be toe up soon

Saying all the things we’d like to say,

hope she gets around to Cousin Lonnie

Cause we all know he got a little extra somebody on the side (But)

Whoa whoa-o-whoa whoa-o-whoa whoa-o-whoa

What can you say…it’s family

Oh sh*t, Damn Micky and Steven are fighten again

Move out the way, somebody might get hurt

Aw Look at that what happen is worst

They knocked over Helenora’s Lemon Cake (Emm)

You know the one she barely ever makes

I’m gettin rilled up, I want them to go

But Somebody turned Frankly Beverly on the stereo

Cousin Ruby starts rockin’, shaken her good hip and boppin’

So we all fall into place, smiling and laughing …..

And whoa whoa-o-whoa whoa-o-whoa whoa-o-whoa

What can you say…it’s family