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My Son Sam – It’s Wonderful When Boys can Be Boys

I read the following poem on Sue Ann Edward’s, Always Embraces Always blog a few days ago, and I feel compelled to share it as well.  I hope it enlightens you as it has me.

If
by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But can make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by the waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk to wise:

If you can dream – and not make the dream your master
If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build’em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!”

If you can walk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings – nor lose the common touch
If neither foes nor friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And – which is more – you’ll be a Man, my son!

I open my heart and mind to be aware…everyone who grows up does not become an adult.

My New Year’s Resolution is to devote more time into growing into adulthood! 

There are people who walk around in grown-up bodies who are not adults.  Often they are people of advanced age and accomplishment.  They can be people you trust with your life and worldly possessions.  You may leave your children in their care.  In fact, if you are not observant, you may find yourself sleeping with one.  Because you are unaware, you expect these grown-ups to act in an adult manner.  Then, in a moment of dire need, when you you least expect it, you discover that this very grown-up person has no concept of what it means to be an adult.  The results can be quite mind-boggling! 

An adult is a person who is able to accept total responsibility for themselves and their actions.  They don’t employ excuses to cover what they have done or not done.  An adult is a person who is not afraid to say what is on their mind and say it without attacking you.  Adults have a sense of clarity that will keep them calm.  Adults will give themselves the benefit of the doubt, knowing that they are human.  Because adults accept and acknowledge their own humanness, they can accept and acknowledge yours.  Adults do not strive for perfection.  They see things as they are and accept them.  Adults do not fall apart in the face of disappointment.  They answer frustration with patience.  Adults know how to take care of their physical, mental and emotional needs, and they are able to put their needs aside in order to handle an emergency.  An adult is a person whose attention is not totally focused on their wants and needs.  God gets some attention, the adult gets some, and you can have the rest. 

Until today, you may have been confused about the difference between a grown-up and an adult.  Just for today, spend some time examining yourself to ensure you are developing adult quaities and behaviors.  ~From Iyanla Vanzant – Until Today