Looking in the Mirror

Spiritual Revelations for those seeking Humanity in Humans ~~CordieB.

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Spiritual Riddle – You may hate me or love me, but when it’s all said and done, you will definitely accept me. (By CordieB)

This is a reposting. . . with a little extra . . . I thought about this after reading Why Paisley’s, "An Ordinary Man."


You may try to escape me, but I will always be just a whisper ahead of you;  You do not truly understand that I mean you no harm.  I am your constant companion, through thick and thin, through triumphs and failures.

You and I are so closely woven, that not even the greatest love or lust can ever really permanently separate us; Our magnetism is so strong, that I will eventually find you and you will eventually find me.

You may desire to change me, to mold me into what you would have me to be.  There are times you may think you’ve suceeded.  However, in retrospect, you would only be fooling yourself;

My mysterious illusion may cause you to go through great lenghths in a futile attempt to find out exactly what I’m all about.

You may run in the opposite direction in an attempt to flee from me, but aha… I am still just a tad ahead of you!  In your haste, you will certainly slam right into me.

You may have even seen a glimpse of me in a distant world, but my charisma is such, that you really couldn’t tell if it was in fact me.  I saw your glimpse and awaited quietly for you to catch up.

I have cried for you and smiled for you.  You are all that I have.  In the realness of it all, I totally depend upon you, for without you I cease to exist. 

You may hate me, love me or fear me.  But usually, you treat me with total disregard.  I simply want you to embrace me.  However, when all is said and done, you will definitely accept me.

Who am I. Read the rest of this entry »

The Grief Process

This was very hard to write for me; as there is no greater loss that I can imagine than that of the loss of a child. Yet it happens; more often than we want to admit . . .So often people guilty because they are told they must move on . . . yet healing requires grief and time. Those who intend to bring comfort must understand these cycles too. So I write this for anyone who may be going through such despair. . . and I pray that you find joy one sweet day. . .

 
There are five stages of grief; and most people experience grief in the order stated below. . .

Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance

Grief’s Cycle …By CordieB

I don’t believe what’s happening;

Surely this can not be real

I’ll awaken from this nightmare soon

I’ll see, I’ll touch, I’ll feel . . .

your loving eyes; your tender heart

You..are still here! No!

We are not apart!

Oh God why did you take my love….

Such a loving soul was he

If you were such a loving God

Why allow such tragedy?

This world is filled with such despair

What does it mean, who really cares?

There are no answers to eternity

If only you would just take me…

instead; I’d rather be the one –

Please take me God, release my son…

Just leave me be. . . let me be free

Into my solo destiny

Alone ..through misty haze I see – and want to be

No desire to communicate –

I’ve lost my will; such is my fate…

Why is it that he had to die?

I plead, I beg, I must know why…

My heart’s so cold; ice cycled blood I cry . . .

Such agony; I hate- despise…

I can not pray . . my heart still cries

I can’t imagine going on . . .

without my loving, caring son . . .

Time passes by; seems like a distant dream

I cry sometimes….

yes, with time …the sadness weans

and with each day as life goes on…

Your love; it helps me carry on

I miss you still, so much – yet I fear

I’ll lose your vision through the years. . .

Yet memories remain so rich and clear

I feel your love down in my soul

Memories bring me comfort; love keeps me whole

My God holds me each day, each hour

So wondrous is God’s healing power

I don’t have answers to this life . . .

Yet live I must, through peace or strife

as death’s essential to all life

And though I do not understand

I see a glimpse of life again

And I feel so blessed to be the one…

you chose to be your mother, Son.

~Written for Valeria Harrison, Mother of Jamal, for which I wrote an article recently, entitled Lessons from the Hood – Perhaps you can find it; I’m tired ."   Valeria read that post . . . and commented. . . .let us keep her in our prayers and pray that men will lay their weapons down!

allow me to be. . . ~Scribbled by Rahul

One of the saddest things I see  is oftentimes when people find religion, spirituality, awareness, the light, etc. . . they feel overly obliged to ensure that everyone else sees what they see and get what they get.  They forget from whense they came or they believe that everyone else can skip major steps in awareness and just be aware.  I believe we see the light through Grace; Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me; I once was lost but now I’m found, was blind but now I see.  Oftentimes in life we are graced with another view of life only after experiencing that which forces us to look at things diffrently; so why is it that anyone feels that this crucial step can be skipped.  Life is Life; all of it – including our fears.  I believe we who have been graced with insight owe it to our brothers and sisters to allow them to evolve in there own time; without constantly pushing what we "know" on them.   It is ok to give advice, especially when it is solicited; but when we attempt to make someone see something that is not in their grasp, we only make them blinder.   Insight is found from within – not from outside sources.  None of my awareness was learned from someone else – it was learned from within me; that is why it’s called in-sight.  Although books, preachers, teachers, gurus, and such may clue my brain to somethings – my real leaps in insight came from learing through my own experiences.   I respect this fact; thus I don’t push my beliefs on others.  I appreciate the same respect.    Rahul, who has very different spiritual views than myself is in my opinion one of the most "knowing" individuals I have come across, based on his writings.  He is real with what he feels – he is a gentle spirit.  Heed his words my friends. . .

let my thoughts fly
don’t tie their wings
let me fall down
nothing can happen
let me measure my depths..

allow me to be angry
let my soul burn
let me realize
what apathy can cost..

give my greed a chance
and i will find out
how important effort is..

allow me to be jealous
and let me learn
how to let go..

let me feel the shame
and become responsible
for what i do.. allow me to be sad
let me feel this pain
let me understand
what joy is worth..

don’t stop me from being
what i am now
this will change
let me be honest
i will evolve..

let me fall, i will rise
let me find
how high i need to climb
just be with me
and allow me to be..

 Scribbled by Rahul

I open my heart and mind to be aware…everyone who grows up does not become an adult.

My New Year’s Resolution is to devote more time into growing into adulthood! 

There are people who walk around in grown-up bodies who are not adults.  Often they are people of advanced age and accomplishment.  They can be people you trust with your life and worldly possessions.  You may leave your children in their care.  In fact, if you are not observant, you may find yourself sleeping with one.  Because you are unaware, you expect these grown-ups to act in an adult manner.  Then, in a moment of dire need, when you you least expect it, you discover that this very grown-up person has no concept of what it means to be an adult.  The results can be quite mind-boggling! 

An adult is a person who is able to accept total responsibility for themselves and their actions.  They don’t employ excuses to cover what they have done or not done.  An adult is a person who is not afraid to say what is on their mind and say it without attacking you.  Adults have a sense of clarity that will keep them calm.  Adults will give themselves the benefit of the doubt, knowing that they are human.  Because adults accept and acknowledge their own humanness, they can accept and acknowledge yours.  Adults do not strive for perfection.  They see things as they are and accept them.  Adults do not fall apart in the face of disappointment.  They answer frustration with patience.  Adults know how to take care of their physical, mental and emotional needs, and they are able to put their needs aside in order to handle an emergency.  An adult is a person whose attention is not totally focused on their wants and needs.  God gets some attention, the adult gets some, and you can have the rest. 

Until today, you may have been confused about the difference between a grown-up and an adult.  Just for today, spend some time examining yourself to ensure you are developing adult quaities and behaviors.  ~From Iyanla Vanzant – Until Today

Unconditional Love

I discovered this poem on the internet some years ago.  I have kept it with me, because it is, to me, the best definition of unconditional love I have seen.  If any one knows who the author is, please advise, so that I can give the proper credit.

Greg and Cordie

What is unconditional love?

  It strikes me as this,

  The ability to always accept

  Loved ones as individual

  Human beings, human beings with

  Singular dispositions and traits

  That may waver at times,

  Depending upon personal circumstances,

  But doesn’t make that person

  Harmful, evil or bad, just human.
 

What is NOT unconditional love?

  Being automatically used in disguise,

  Taken for granted and advantage of,

  And constantly accepting and denying

  Mistreatment as isolated incidents,

  Or continually letting and forgiving someone

  For always doing me wrong

  Because they NEVER change their ways

  Does not constitute the grounds

  Of unconditional love in my eyes.
 

Unconditional love to me,

  Is the ability to differentiate

  Between when a person’s

  Contrary actions directed towards me

  Are honestly or intentionally abnormal,

  And accepting my dear beings

  At their best, lovable dispositions,

  During their dark, depressing moments,

  And throughout their mood swings,

  Because these changes happen at times.

  Sometimes it’s the hardest thing,

  To stand and deal with someone,

  When it seems like they are

  Depending upon or burdening you purposely

  Because they are hopelessly frustrated

  With their own personal issues,

  But the way to tell if

  Someone is genuinely relying on me

  Is by knowing them well

  And understanding who they are.
 

A bond that is severed,

  Is one that never existed.

  To err and to fluctuate dispositions,

  Is natural and is human.

  To embody and practice unconditional love,

  Is to know which persons

  This is appropriate to apply to

  And treat them as such,

  Realizing who they themselves are

  As human beings and individuals.
 

A hard lesson to learn

  Is sometimes when people say

  Things that hurt or insult

  Me at that particular time

  Is to not take it personally

  Based on their current demeanor

  Or attitude from whatever trial

  And tribulation they’re going through

  Because they may not mean it

  At that particular time.
 

The sidewalk isn’t always dry,

  But when it occasionally gets slippery,

  That doesn’t change its underlying structure.

  A person may experience some strife

  Which can temporarily transform them

  Into non-desirable, annoying creatures,

  But when we realize they’re human,

  And understand them as individuals,

  We’ll know they aren’t harming us

  And we can show them unconditional love.