Thanks everyone for your input on yesterday’s post – The Victim and the Perpetrator! I enjoyed everyone’s input – and respect you much for speaking on this. I’ve already commented – but after commenting, I had some further thoughts on the subject, so this is an updated version of my prior comment.
Interesting that Bright Light Warrior Nika wrote, “Is anyone ever a victim?” I would have to say, yes there are times when people are victims as defined by standard terms. However, adults who never defend themselves or choose to live in situations in which they are contstantly victimised when they have alternatives are not, in my opinion, victims. They are co-conspirators of their own demise. Also, once we conquer our circumstance – we are no longer a victim but a survivor! A conquerer! Power to the Survivor!! So, if you are breathing air today, do not think of yourself as being a victim; for you are a survivor! You have survived the last blow – it’s now time to take your stance for the next blow. If you are in a dire circumstance, think of yourself as being a potential survivor!!!! – never a victim – because that victimous thought is speaking to the universe – “I am a victim.” And the universe works on the now – and the universe often brings to you that which you say you are! Rid the victim belief; it is an illusion. We are survivors and potential conquerors of any circumstance in life!
Glenn gave us the scenario in which the powers that be drives individuals to embrace the perpetrator. In that case, I would have to say the perpetrator has now taken on the victim’s role. He or she is now being perped by the Powers that Be. Individuals who consider themselves to be victims, often become or are the worst type of perpetrators – think about it. . . . .
Sanity Found feels that the perp want’s silence; due to shame; and the victim would like the scenario to be brought to light to prevent similar incidents. I agree, however, I doubt that the perp is shamed; I would imagine that he needs silence simply so he, she or it can continue doing what they do without retaliation and/or retribution. Most perps do not consider their actions inappropriate – they have a real good reason for doing it.
Sorrow and Enreal – Both of you see these dualities as they are; for we all have been in the victim’s role and we all have been in the perps role in one way or another. If we are growing spiritually, we will see ourselves in these situations lesser and lesser, and we will certainly not feel the same about the situations as we once did. – for we draw to us on the outside that which our thoughts keep telling us about ourselves. If we feel as though we are victims, we will draw to us people and circumstances in which we might be very real victims. As adults, once we get ourselves into these conditions – is it not our responsibility to at least try to get ourselves out without contstantly recruiting others to join in our agony – especially if the event is long ago past? How many people do we know, including ourselves, who are really survivors – not at all victims. Yet, we talk of and reminise these stories as if we are victims! If we want to live in the now – we must stop having a victim mentality for things that are far in the past and for which we have conquered! We are survivors!!!. For in believing we are victims, we often then become the perpetrator. Peace, Light and Love