Most relationship problems really aren’t as hard as we make them. It is really quite simple. Unfortunately, we have so much “stuff” attached to the situation, we create a burden where there need not be one. We create problems where none exist. We cause ourselves a great deal of upset for no reason! There is really no reason to fight or argue about it; to explain or to demand an explanation. We are clear!
You did not like what happened. It did not honor you! It was a violation of your boundaries. It was not in keeping with the agreement you made or the agreement someone made with you. What is happening or has happend is not of your choice, nor is if of your making. So, it’s really very simple! Stop looking and asking for an explanation. Stop demanding that people do what they have already demonstrated an unwillingness or inability to do. Accept what has happend and decide what you are going to do about it! Once you make the decision that honors you, move on!
Stop making the realities of your life more difficult than they need to be! Accept what you know and feel to be right for you without trying to convince others that they are so wrong.
Stop wasting your breath, and their time, venting on something that you have stated is unacceptable.