Looking in the Mirror

Spiritual Revelations for those seeking Humanity in Humans ~~CordieB.

Archive for February, 2008

Life will work for me when I realize . . . I have everthing I need within me to create everthing I want out there

What is the difference between joy and happiness?  What is the difference between knowing and believing?  Wht is the difference between love and pleasure?  Joy, knowing and love are what you feel.  Happiness, believing and pleasure are ways you think.  The former are all internal experiences.  The latter are responses to external events.  The former are things over which you have control through the power of your mind.  The latter are experiences through which you can be controlled by events and people!

If you are waiting for something to happen that will make you happy, chances are you are killing off your joy.  Joy comes through you.  Happiness comes to you!  If you seek your joy within, you will be happy, no matter what is going around you.  When you know you will be protected, guided and blessed, it is easy to believe in more than what you can see.  If you only believe what you can see around you, you may miss the blessings that are right under your nose.  If you have and hold love in your heart, you will always know what to do and what to say.  If you measure out how much love to give, you will undoubtedly meet people and situations who have a reflective measure of love for you.  Nothing can hapen for you in the outside world until you create the energy to attract it to and through your inside world. 

Until Today, you may have misssed the little differences that coudl make a big difference in your life.  Just for today, be devoted to developing a strong inner life that can create a better outer life.  In prayer and meditation ask to experiece joy, knwoing and love, knowing that once you ask, you will receive!

~Inyanla Vanzant

Yesterday, I became so off track that I was still off track this morning.  Now, I’m usually very even tempered, and try to see the good side of everthing in life and people.  But yesterday, some people really pissed me off.  In retrospect, I shouldn’t have gotten so angry.  Also, the people responsible for my anger have no idea of the gravity of the anger I had.  (They will, if they ever read this, however.)

Now as a female, we tend to let relationship issues tick us off more so than any thing else.  We can deal with unruly children, pestering neighbors, lazy co-workers, incompentent managers, idiodic family members, fu-ked up friends, you name it.  But as soon as someone does something that we perceive as being disrespectful, flirtatious, etc, when pertaining to our man, we loose our cool composition points; or is it just me?

My friend/coworker (who doesn’t have a man of her own)  finds it her appointed duty to ride with my man and tell him everything  about her, including her sex life, lack of sex life, home life etc.  Mind you, we all work for the same agency.  Now, being that his job requires him to ensure that she has transportation to her vehicle after work, it’s really no big deal, right?  After all everyone chats, talks about their lives while riding, etc.   Also, they are friends, too. . .Right?  But when you have to ride around the post over and over, still yacking, and telling my man all of your intimate secrets, making him swear to secrecy on a stack of bibles, after a while it starts pissing me off.   Hell, I wonder what his response would be if I rode around with one of his croneys?   How many secrets do you plan on telling my man not to tell me!   I know the shit is childish; but I was just rubbed wrong yesterday, and still am, as you may see from the tone of this post. 

Ok.  Here is the part that broke the campbell’s back.  I get in the van to ride around because I have something that I want to talk to my man about.  Mind you, we are all friends–he and she more so than she and I.   I realize that he has given her one of our last ciggerettes, and she makes it a point to let me know that she rode off the installation with him to go fuel the vehicle.  Ok.  I try not to show my contempt, I’m hoping that the steam coming from my ears is not too thick. 

So, I make up casual conversation and friendly inquiries, asking about the kids, the job, and whatever.   But, evidently, I couldn’t fake the funk good enough.  She must have seen the steam coming from my ears or else she heard the toot toot sound muffled in my throat.

Here’s the kicker.  Once she’s on her way home, she calls my man back, upset, (almost in tears he says) because she senses that I may have had an ATTITUDE.    He said she sounded like she was about to cry, and said she wasn’t going to ride with him anymore, and she needed the exercise anyway, because she didn’t want to start any trouble–and we (me and her) are friends.  

BULLSHIT.  Now you can bullshit some of the people some of the time, and most of the people some of the time, and some of the people most of the time, but you can NEVER pull bullshit over me when it comes to my man!

(1)  If I’m your friend, you wouldn’t constantly tell my man your secrets, and say dont’ tell me.

(2)  I wouldn’t dream of riding around with a friend’s man, yacking and yacking.  That shit just ain’t kosher.

(3)  I’m beginning to think that perhaps she gets a kick out of this drama – being that she made it a point to point out that they had to go off post.  That’s not Friendship.  That’s Bullship.

(4)  If she felt I had a problem with the riding, she should have approached me with her sob phoney story about not riding anymore because she sensed I was upset. 

Anyway. . . .   (haaa. . . . . . . I’m exhaling now)  I feel better now.   I’m experiencing joy, knowing and love and no one can take that or give that to me except myself, because it’s internal. 

 Peace, Light and Love to you and yours. . . .

Today is Just a Routine Day

Somebody will take his or her last breath today

Somebody will lose his or her job today

Somebody will find out they have a terminal illness today

Somebody will get raped today

Somebody will suffer verbal abuse today

Somebody will be a victim of domestic violence today

Somebody will be involved in a car accident today

Somebody will have his or her house burn down today

Somebody will have a miscarriage today

Somebody will decide to end his or her marriage today

Somebody will commit suicide today

Somebody will have their spouse cheat on them today

Somebody will admit that he or she is an alcoholic today

Somebody will become homeless today

Somebody will become addicted to drugs today

Somebody will lose a loved one to death today

Somebody will be grateful today

Today is just a routine day.

By Deb

When We Focus on the Problem, the Problem Gets Bigger

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Photo courtesy of CordieB and was inspired by pboothe

The mind is such an incredible power tht it literally expands whatever it touches.  When we are faced with a challenge, obstacle or problem, our tendency is to nurture it.  We talk about it.  We describe it vividly.  We monitor its progress day by day, imagining how much it is growing and how its effects are devastating every aspect of our lives.  What we are actually doing is giving the problem more value than its worth.  When confronted with a difficulity, we must immediately shift our attention from the problem to the solution.  We can think, speak and bring the best possible outcome into existence by focusing on where we are going, not on where we think we are.

~Iyala Vanzant

Have you ever imagined something very terrible, that never materialized, or was nothing like you thought it would be?  So often in life, when we are faced with challenges, we let our mind focus so heavily on the problem, that our mind can not expand to come up with the solution. 

The fear in facing challenges sometimes overwhelm us so much that we become physically sick.  Once we become sick, we are forced to focus on our health, and the problem is not so important anymore.   Allowing fearful thoughts to control your mind will bring on sickness and illness, both of the mind, body and soul. 

We have to constantly be aware of our thoughts when we face life’s challenges.  Only when we focus on the solution and let go of the fear, will be able to defeat the challenge.   Also, ninety percent of the time, the fear we dread is only perceived and never materializes. 

When I was in middle school, I was scared to death of going to school the next day because a bully had threatend to fight me.  I lay awake all night worrying, imagining my teeth being punched out and my hair being pulled out.  When the morning came, I had a stomach ache due to the enduring worry.  Now my mother was very keen to my emotions, and she knew something was wrong.  She must have sensed that I was having a problem of this sort.  She would not let me stay home!  She said, you have to face your battles in order to move on in life. 

Well, to make a long story short, I went to school and I faced my bully.  There was a fight; I lost.  But the lost was not as bad as I had imagined. I still had beautiful teeth and lovely hair.  In fact, I gained respect for standing up to the bully; and she and I became good friends eventually. 

So I say to you my friends, face your challenges; don’t avoid them.  Don’t imagine the worst and blow up your problems.  The future is never quite what we imagine it to be.  What we know now about tomorrow is only a fraction, if that much.  We so often see the worst in our problems.  We also forget that everything changes.  No heartache, bad times, bad luck, good times or anything else will last forever.  Stressing on problems will make you sick–such mental stress can actually activate that cancer cell that we all have .  Focus on the solution, and not the problem!  (If there really is a problem; most likely not!)

Peace, Love and Light to you and yours . . . .

CordieB.

Quotation Monday – On “Peace of Mind” I Heard them Say . . .

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A Peace of Mind is Worth it All ~CordieB

Peace is a stranger to the rigid mind. Peace is a guest of the flexible heart.   

In Heaven, peace has another name: light. On earth, peace has another name: love.

~Sri Chinmoy

Do you need or enjoy fear, worries and restlessness? If you don’t, then why do you keep inviting them into your mind?

Thoughts and feelings play a major role in everything we do. It is through these inner processes that we experience our happiness and peace of mind—or the worst day we’ve ever had. ~Doc Childre and Howard Martin, HeartMath Solution

It is essential to know that to be a happy person, a happy family, a happy society, it is very crucial to have a good heart, that is very crucial. World peace must develop from inner peace. Peace is not just the absence of violence but the manifestation of human compassion ~Dalai Lama

Remember, don’t waste time comparing your life to others who seem more fortunate. Being fortunate is based on how much peace you have, not how many luxuries or conveniences you have. Practice from the heart to make peace with what is, then life gives you more help to change things for the better. ~Doc Childre and Howard Martin, HeartMath Solution

In peace, sons bury their fathers; in war, fathers bury their sons. ~Herodotus

A self-transcendence-mind Has peace. A oneness-heart Is peace.

~Excerpt from Peace: God’s Heart-Home, Part 1 by Sri Chinmoy. 

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 I am simply here to remind you and myself that there is another way. Through compassion and understanding, we can choose peace instead of anger. We can choose a peaceful mind instead of an anxious mind. We can choose happiness instead of sadness and we can choose compassion instead of condemnation, anger and regret. We are all spiritual beings, having a human experience. We have yet to remember our perfection, and that is why we are here. Someone with whom you may be angry is here to assist you in remembering your perfection. He or she is your teacher, as well as your student. All of his or her actions and reactions offer you an opportunity to choose peace in a situation where you once found the possibility of peace unobtainable. They offer you another opportunity to forgive what you once found unforgivable, and to love who you once found unloveable. It is in that choosing that you remember your own perfection, and in remembering your perfection, you will find peace, forgiveness and love within you now.

– James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 168

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The more at peace you are with your physical world and everyone and everything in it, the more peace you will experience in your life. The more peaceful thoughts you have in your mind, the less fearful thoughts you have and the more peaceful a life you will experience. It is truly that simple. The more moments you spend having peaceful thoughts in your day, the less moments you spend having negative thoughts. The more time you spend having peaceful thoughts, the more peace you will experience. This might seem simplistic, and it is, for truth is always simpler than your ego allows you to imagine. The ego has no interest in truth and would have you believe that truth is complicated, inaccessible and unobtainable to mortal man.

– James Blanchard Cisneros, You Have Chosen to Remember: A Journey From Perception to Knowledge, Peace of Mind and Joy, p. 234

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