Looking in the Mirror

Spiritual Revelations for those seeking Humanity in Humans ~~CordieB.

Archive for December, 2007

Cognizant, The Cause of Unhappiness – By Mystic Healing Art

My New Year’s Resolution is to learn to leave behind all motives, causes and reasons which are not truly reasons of life.  To strive to walk the path of happiness, of peace and search for prosperity for all.   God Bless each of you, and may you have a spirit filled New Year this year and beyond. . .  Peace, Light and Love, CordieB.

There are persons in this world, who  are resentful of the happiness of others, just as if happiness would harm them. Besides, they consider themselves as the only ones who deserve all goodness and make out of their own lives a tragedy of frustration and misery. And why all this happens ? Is perhaps that the person does not have capacity or abilities ? Not quite, the person might have a great capacity of intelligence but what truly happens is that there is no spirituality, there is no commitment to Peace and Love. There is, instead, an inner torment of loneliness and anxiety, for the simple and direct fact of envy…

This is an addiction, a terrible compulsion, which lacks love and which also  ignores the effort of others, while not wanting to recognize what is obvious since all effort has merit and is an achievement. The envious person has not open her heart, he/she is blind because of the terrible incapacity of valuing and respecting; this is a very lonely life,  with great confusion and small consciousness. True spirituality promotes emotional and psychological values since spirituality does not admit hypocrisies, arrogance, pride and self deceit…

Then, every one who is not happy has  to know that the reason is that he/she does not love, does not miss the need of a human family, of a universal family. But this can change, this must be overcome, this lack has to be faced, it is necessary to win over evil and search for goodness.  It is essential to exercise and practice the spiritual life, not as doctrine of loneliness , but as a living practice of communion and universal union.  Since, not being happy is path of destruction and death, total abandonment; let’s learn to leave behind, all motives, causes and reasons which are not truly reasons of life and let’s walk the path of happiness, of peace and let’s search for prosperity for all, this is truly humanism, and is spiritual consciousness.

By Mistical Healing Art

Drama Queen Syndrome

In reference to the comment received from PI on my last blog entry (All Grown Ups Are not Adults), perhaps Ms. “Attrack Stalkers” has what is known as the Drama Queen Syndrome.   Being stalked more than once, is by no means a coincidence.  We often attract certain types of people into our lives.  If we desire to make a change, we must make adjustments to ourselves, or else we’ll often get into the same script with a different cast.  In fact, once we make the adjustments to ourselves, those personalities which we do not desire to be associated with will no longer even be attacted to us.  They will find us unapproachable.  We give off vibes both verbally and nonverbally.   Mother Theresa would not have ever had the stalking problem, because she simply did not give off those types of vibes.   Try not to judge those drama queens so harshly, they are still growing, just as we all are.  Step back when the drama starts to become too irritating.  I find that the Drama Queen personality can be rather amusing at times, if we don’t take life too seriously.  And remember, if you have a drama queen in your life, there maybe something about you that helped develop that friendship.  The article below gives some basic characterizations of Drama Queens. 

As always, Peace Love and Light, CordieB.


There are many categorizations of both men and women. No categorization is perfectly flawless and fool proof. Nevertheless there is some truth to such labels of personality types so much so as it helps you to know whom you are dealing with.

The “Drama Queen” syndrome need not be entirely relegated to the female gender. Males can also tend toward selfishness, self-absorption and egotism.

How do you know if you have a drama queen or king on your hands?

You may be a “Drama Queen” (or King) if….

1. Your daily complaints exceed your thanks.
2. You consistently have emotional outbursts everyday.
3. You shout and expect people elsewhere in the home (or office) to come running at your beck and call.
4. You communicate your needs and wants passionately while rarely considering those of others.
5. A bad hair day ruins your day.
6. Your dog hides in fear when you explode and lose it.
7. You are dissatisfied with the gifts you receive from people.
8. You demand that people be clean and on their best behavior at your home (or with your stuff), whereas when you are at theirs you give no such regard.
9. An argument with someone over the phone can throw you into a tailspin with everyone else with whom you interact afterward.
10. You have been called a perfectionist, but are far from perfect yourself.
11. When your nails, hair and appearance are a continual focal point in conversation.
12. Budgetary constraints are deemed to be “controlling.”
13. If your expenses exceed your income, you bounce checks regularly and yell at ATMs that refuse to give you money.
14. If being out of control is more important to you than practicing self-control.
15. If you want others to be kind with their use of words while you yourself are careless.
16. If manipulation is your favorite art form.
17. If you run from confrontation and correction.
18. If you go from one guy to the next in an effort to remain continually in control.
19. If using guys to get what you want is pleasurable for you.
20. Your girlfriends call you the B_ _ _ _ word.
21. After your boyfriend buys you a bunch of new clothes, en route to the exit when bypassing another store you stop to look at more.
22. You ask for gifts priced well beyond what you would ever pay yourself when buying for others.
23. You throw things during a temper tantrum.
24. Relatives cringe at your coming.
25. People feel as if whatever they do for you is never enough.
26. You emotional exhaust yourself and others.
27. You cannot live and let live.
28. You must always call the shots and have it your way.
29. Being the center of attention is your primary purpose.
30. You criticize regularly and encourage rarely.
31. You regularly have a meltdown during “that time of the month.”
32. You refuse to apologize and take accountability for your words and actions.
33. You cannot forgive and prefer holding grudges.
34. You blame others for your shortcomings.
35. You deflect constructive criticism preferring shallow conversation.
36. You have few close friends who can truly speak into your life.
37. You erect walls to avoid hearing what don’t want to hear.
38. You cut people off and out of your life the minute you disagree with them.
39. You stonewall to overcome feelings of insecurity rather than be transparent and discuss your feelings humbly and openly.
40. When you get what you want, you realize you don’t want what you’ve got.
41. You are an emotional bottomless pit, meaning no matter how much you get you are never satisfied.
42. Your lust for attention and affirmation is insatiable, while your love for yourself is minimal.
43. You are impatient and impulsive.
44. You repel the very people who you would most benefit from attracting in your life.
45. You judge by outward appearance rather than looking within to the mind and heart of a person.
46. Fashion is a large part of your self-image, without which you would feel lesser as a person.
47. You compare yourself with others rather than being content.
48. The exterior is given far more attention than your inner world and personal development as a person.
49. What you project outwardly is more important to you than what you possess inwardly.
50. You deem moments of selfishness merely as self-actualization and personal fulfillment.
51. You serve yourself before others.
52. You are quick to speak and slow to hear.
53. You dominate conversations and rarely listen.
54. Difficulties and life challenges easily demoralize you.
55. You demonize people who disagree with you.
56. You seek to be understood before endeavoring to understand others.
57. You easily anger.
58. You sulk in sadness when you don’t get your way.
59. You try to read between the lines to such an extent that you draw meanings and jump to conclusions that are not warranted nor factually based.
60. You expect more out of others than you give of yourself.
61. You don’t manage time. Time manages you.
62. You skip meals to look good, when you could eat well to feel good.
63. You pay close attention to the latest trends in Hollywood.
64. You have numerous parking and speeding tickets, which you’ve still not paid.
65. You don’t hesitate to make demands and give ultimatums.
66. You judge others by their actions and yourself by your intentions.
67. You don’t master your moods and emotions.
68. You leverage your good looks to get you everything you want.
69. You care more about looks than character.
70. You practice a “take it and leave them” philosophy.

We all like attention and affirmation, which by no means are wrong. Some however crave and manifest it more blatantly than others. Selfishness and insecurity are essentially the foundational motives in attention seeking dramatic types.

Self-actualization and preservation are basic human instincts. By no means are such innate tendencies bad. Yet when we expect the world to revolve around us, we often drive away those we value and need the most.

Dramatic types on the flip side can be quite fun to be around. They can add expression, laughter, affection and action to our dull, boring, monotonous everyday lives. Adventure and the unexpected is something we all desire at times. A balanced dose of these certainly can at pizzazz to our lives.

An excessive and overbearing imbalance of dramatics however can destabilize and drive us crazy. May God help you therefore find the right balance in your own life personally and also simultaneously achieve relational harmony with the one you love.

Article borrowed from http://ezinearticles.com/?Drama-Queen-Test:-You-May-Be-a-Drama-Queen-If&id=263968

I open my heart and mind to be aware…everyone who grows up does not become an adult.

My New Year’s Resolution is to devote more time into growing into adulthood! 

There are people who walk around in grown-up bodies who are not adults.  Often they are people of advanced age and accomplishment.  They can be people you trust with your life and worldly possessions.  You may leave your children in their care.  In fact, if you are not observant, you may find yourself sleeping with one.  Because you are unaware, you expect these grown-ups to act in an adult manner.  Then, in a moment of dire need, when you you least expect it, you discover that this very grown-up person has no concept of what it means to be an adult.  The results can be quite mind-boggling! 

An adult is a person who is able to accept total responsibility for themselves and their actions.  They don’t employ excuses to cover what they have done or not done.  An adult is a person who is not afraid to say what is on their mind and say it without attacking you.  Adults have a sense of clarity that will keep them calm.  Adults will give themselves the benefit of the doubt, knowing that they are human.  Because adults accept and acknowledge their own humanness, they can accept and acknowledge yours.  Adults do not strive for perfection.  They see things as they are and accept them.  Adults do not fall apart in the face of disappointment.  They answer frustration with patience.  Adults know how to take care of their physical, mental and emotional needs, and they are able to put their needs aside in order to handle an emergency.  An adult is a person whose attention is not totally focused on their wants and needs.  God gets some attention, the adult gets some, and you can have the rest. 

Until today, you may have been confused about the difference between a grown-up and an adult.  Just for today, spend some time examining yourself to ensure you are developing adult quaities and behaviors.  ~From Iyanla Vanzant – Until Today

Merry Christmas (Belated)

Merry Christmas and Happy New Years to all.  I suppose I have a form of writers block, or else I’m just tired.  Christmas was also me and my s/o’s birthday.  We had a great time with family.  I read a blog today in which the writer gave an updated version of “Twas the Night Before Christmas.”  You can read it at the following link:  http://ingridspeak.wordpress.com/2007/12/24/god-bless-us-every-one/  It covered my sentiments on Christmas.   I just thought I’d pass this on, and regroup for the new year. 

Peace, Love, and Light to you and yours. . .