Now just because we forgive someone does not mean that we should allow anyone to continually hurt us. It means that we release them from the anger, resentment, and bitterness usually associated with an unforgiving spirit. It means that we love them, in spite of….. We love them whether they are in our lives or out of our lives…just like the father loves the prodigal son. In order to conjure the spirit of forgiveness, we must first conjure the spirit of godly love and compassion. The spirit of godly love (agape) “compassionate love” will get us much further in our relationships than the spirit of being in love (eros) “passionate love.” You see in the spirit of eros love, with it’s swirling emotions and drama, we don’t actually actively love our beloved; rather, we find a desperate emotional need for our beloved to love us. Although, the spirit of eros in a relationship is important, as it makes the relationship, exciting and exhilarating, these feelings ALWAYS dissipate unless they are accompanied by the spirit of agape love.
So if there is something that you feel unforgiving about your beloved today, try to summon the spirit of agape love and harness compassion, not only for your beloved, but also for yourself. This is the spirit that 50-year old anniversaries are based upon! You might be surprised how much better you will feel about your beloved, but even more so, about yourself!
Quote for the Day: “There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.” – Bryant H. McGill -
“Forgiveness is almost a selfish act because of its immense benefits to the one who forgives.” - Lawana Blackwell, The Dowry of Miss Lydia Clark, 1999
Peace, Light and Love, CordieB.